Welcome to the Mindset Coach Academy podcast. I'm Lindsay Wilson and I am a high-performance mindset coach, a mom, a former professional athlete and an entrepreneur. I help coaches and high performers optimize their mindset to improve their coaching, their performance in those other athletes and their lives. Here you'll learn all about mindset, how to live it, how to teach it and how to sell it. Hi everybody, welcome back to the Mindset Coach Academy podcast.
My name is Lindsey Wilson. It's Mental Monday. We're wrapping up then 2024. You're probably listening to this in 2024, but even if not, you know, it's maybe January 2025 and we're setting goals. We're setting lots and lots of goals. I love goal looking at goals because here's what I'm seeing a lot with myself and with my students is we often make a lot of assumptions about our goals and what it's going to be like or what it's going to take to get there. And we do this in like underestimating and we also make up sort of imagined consequences.
So let me give you a couple of examples because I think that's going to help make it clear. Okay, so I have one student that wants to accomplish a certain revenue number in her business and she thinks that the cost of that is going to be less time with her kids. Now, I'm not going to say that achieving that is not going to take time, but she's assuming a lot of things about that. She's assuming that she can't get it all done when the kids are in school. She's assuming that she has to work all these different hours. Now, again, the math I'm not going to go into because it may be that she needs to take some of this time away from her kids to work on her business, but it's also sort of like over exaggerated. And so she has this goal that she's going for quote unquote, but she's really making a lot of assumptions about what it's going to cost. And so she's constantly kind of pulling herself back because she's really scared to get it because she's assuming that it's kind of going to make her a worse mom. I mean, that's how she's framing it in her head. And again, it's not to say that goals don't take time and that sometimes it takes away from your family is not going to tell you that, but there's a lot of assumptions that she's making.
And it gets you out of creative thinking. And again, if that is true, let's say it's true that she is going to take time away from her family to accomplish the goal. Let's really make sure that that's real and not just assumed, because if it is real and you say, okay, it's going to take me one evening away from my family to accomplish this goal. And it's never that cut or dry.
But you know what I mean, like, you're kind of like being more realistic. Like, okay, it is going to cost me a night away from my family. I'm not going to be able to go to soccer practice on this night, because I may be working with clients. Then you have an honest conversation with yourself about is it still worth it? Because now you're being honest about the cost.
Okay. So again, we don't make assumptions because assumptions aren't real. They just they're kind of just the Debbie Downer of goals. Okay, so that's one side. The other side is setting goals and assuming certain things about how great it's going to be to get there.
And this is dangerous, because the grass is always greener, right? And we set these big goals. But I believe that our brain really kind of knows if there's any kind of like BS going on with our goals.
So let me get to build a $200,000 business as a for us, it's gonna be a mental performance coach. Okay. Really looking critically at that.
And maybe gathering some information talking to other people like what is it going to cost you? What is it really going to take to get to that goal? So that's going to be time. There's maybe going to be some upfront cost. Maybe you'll have to leave your job before you really know that you can make that much money. Maybe you'll have to hire employees. Maybe you don't want to hire employees. Maybe it means longer hours.
Maybe it means certain hours that you don't want to work. And again, you don't necessarily know all of this. But I do think that it's really helpful to at least try to look critically at your goals and say what is it going to take?
Do I really want to pay that price? So again, it's like, you know, the easy example would be like, okay, I want to lose this amount of weight or I want to get healthier. Okay, this is what it's going to take. This is what you're going to have to eat. This is what you're going to have to do.
This is what you're going to have to not be able to do. Is that realistic? Do you really want to pursue that goal? Because here's the thing, guys, I really think all this goal setting, like our culture on goal setting can get a little bit dangerous in the sense that like It's almost too encouraged to set goals without really holding our feet to the fire. Like, okay, let's not set a goal unless we're really serious about getting it. Because if we keep just setting random goals that we're not, we haven't thought through critically, we've made a lot of assumptions about how long it's going to take or how it's going to be when we get there or how great it's going to be or how easy it's going to be or how hard it's going to be. We make a lot of assumptions. And if we don't look critically at our goals, we're setting goals that we actually don't intend to meet. And what that does in my experience is that erodes our confidence that we can set and achieve goals.
And this, my friends, is extremely dangerous. You want to be the person that sets goals and come hell or high water. Doesn't matter how long it's going to take. Doesn't matter how hard it is.
Doesn't matter. We've thought it through. We don't believe that we're going to be happier because we have more money or we're skinnier. We just are excited about the journey. When we're that person, we can find happiness and we can be the person that sets goals and actually achieves them and set of the person that sets new new years resolutions every year and never accomplishes them. That's not the person we want to be. So goals, assumptions.
These, this is important. When you're thinking about your goals, what assumptions are you making? Because when we look at those assumptions, then we have a much clearer picture of are we willing to go for that goal? Is that goal really that appealing?
Or is it just sort of like a fantasy delusional thing? Are we willing to do the work? Are we willing to stick with it when it gets hard? Do we have a clear picture of why it's important? All of those things are getting us out of fantasy land and out of assumption land and into like reality, which some of us don't want to do because it's harder.
Right? That's fine too. But if you really want to set a goal, stop making assumptions, really look at your goals and decide then, once you decide how much skills it could take, decide then if you really want to do it. Set it and go get it. All right guys, that's all for now.
Hope you had a good one and talk to you soon. Hey guys, here's what I want you to know. If you are a coach or a parent that wants to implement mental training with your team or with your athletes, it can be easy to get overwhelmed. It can be easy to be like, oh, we need to bring in a mental training coach or I need to get certified or we need this whole program. And what I will tell you is yes, that's great if you have the time, the energy, the money to do that.
And if you don't, that's okay. Start with one thing. Now, what is that one thing you might ask? I'm going to tell you exactly what to start. And it is with a pre-practice mental training routine.
The good news is we teach you exactly how to do that with our most popular tool of all time called the braver method. Now, I hear from coaches all the time that have implemented this, many of them for years and they have seen such results in their practices, having their athletes more focused, more resilient, more ready to improve with every single practice. Because you guys know, it's like, okay, you start practice, maybe you have like a good physical warm-up and like maybe the athletes are there mentally, but like maybe they're not. And we expect that at some point they will, but how much time is wasted between practice starting and when it like finally clicks that they're ready to practice.
And sometimes that never happens, right? But I hear that a lot from coaches that like the first little bit of practice mentally is just kind of a waste. It takes a lot of time and energy to get the athletes ready. And what I will say is with the braver, it is designed to help them focus from the jump. So if you're wondering where to start with mental training, I've been doing this for 18 years and I will tell you unequivocally start with the braver. And what it is is a pre-practice routine that includes breath work, visualization, affirmations, a reset word. It includes so many of the tools that we teach in one simple, simple, simple, simple five minute exercise. Now it does take a little time to set up because I'll have you do a workshop with them where they decide their affirmation. But once you do that, you're going to watch all the stuff yourself, then you're going to do the workshop with your team. Then you have this five minute routine that is you can use every single day for every practice for every game and your athletes know how to use it.
Many of them will use it for like tests and other things in life once they learn how to do it. So it is $39. It's on our website.
I'll put the link in the show notes as well. If you go to positiveperformancetraining.com and click on courses, you will see the braver. It is by far our most popular course of all time. And thousands of athletes across the country are using it.
It is simple, simple, simple to implement. Okay. So if you're looking for something to do, do not wait till next season.
Do not wait until you have all the money and all the time to do the whole meal deal of mental performance training. That would be great. And maybe you'll work up to that. But right now, what can you do today? And this week, it's simple, get the braver.
We also have a money back guarantee. So if that's on your mind, just let that be. We got you. It works. You're going to love it. Go to positiveperformancetraining.com. Go to courses, get the braver, get your hands on it and start implementing it today.
