Welcome to the Mindset Coach Academy podcast. I'm Lindsey Wilson and I am a high performance mindset coach, a mom, a former professional athlete and an entrepreneur. I help coaches and high performers optimize their mindset to improve their coaching, their performance in those other athletes and their lives. Here you'll learn all about mindset, how to live it, how to teach it and how to sell it. All right guys, welcome back to Mental Monday and the Mindset Coach Academy. Today we're going to talk a little bit about psychological safety and generally being the last person picked on the playground, rejection. And I just want to talk about it.
This is a short episode, so we're not going to go too much into how the brain works and all the science behind it because we can do that in another episode, but this, you know, these mental Mondays are very actionable. And the thing that I want you to think about is that feeling of being picked last on the playground. And I want you to imagine that someone in your life in some big or small way is feeling that maybe it's your coworker, maybe it's your kid, maybe it's someone on your team, that someone is just very basically not feeling included. And essentially when we feel that way, we do not feel psychologically safe.
And you can just think about it like how our brain is wired, right? Like we're either in the group, in the tribe, or we're outside of it. And if we're outside of it, not only not psychologically safe, but we're probably not like physically safe, right? And so these days, a lot of that manifests in like a psychological feeling of not being safe, right? Not feeling like we have somebody in our corner, not feeling like we have a friend, not feeling like we're seen, not feeling like we can be our true self, not feeling like other people understand us.
And we have all been in that position at some point in our life and it sucks. And I want you to imagine or start sort of trying to see these are not necessarily like the obvious thing. It might not be the person that is sitting at the next lunch table in the cafeteria. It might not be a physical thing. They might be at the same table, but they don't feel a part of the group.
And I just want you to kind of put on like a filtration over your brain to look for those things in the next day or so and make it your mission to go and include somebody that maybe doesn't feel that included, right? And again, it's gonna be slight probably. It might be obvious too, but it might also might be slight. It might be the person that just hasn't said something for a little while. And not to say you have to say something in front of everybody else, but just checking in with them.
It might be the person that just doesn't feel like they fit in and all they need is just somebody to talk to them, right? And so just taking a minute to think about that because we all get so busy. We all get busy, right? We are trying to accomplish lots of things, lots of very important things throughout our day.
And especially if we are in any kind of position of power and power might just be that we feel psychologically safe ourselves, maybe we have some social capital, maybe we have some social power. If we are ever in those situations, is there a time when you can go talk to somebody? Like in my women's group, oftentimes there's new people. Now, my group, the culture is that a lot of people will go talk to that new person. So it's not something that I feel like I have to do every time, but that's just an example of like, yes, maybe it takes something from me. Like as far as like, I have to be bold and I have to be brave and I have to go out of my way, but what does it do for that person that feels like they're getting picked last? So again, just a simple reminder, just look for it.
Cause I guarantee if you look for it, you will find it. You will find lots of opportunities to include other people. And not to say that we're excluding them.
It's not to say that we, what we're doing right now is bad, but if we can go over and above and try to include them and even if it's not, again, so obvious, it's a really fun exercise. So try it out, come on over to Instagram, let me know if you've tried it and I'll see you next week for Mental Monday. Hey guys, come on over to Instagram and connect with me @lindseypositiveperform. You can tag me in stories, you can send me an audio message or a direct message. I post stuff like sometimes stuff related to mental training. Other times I post my granola recipe or my crazy salads because I'm all about the salads, the full fat salads, mind you. So come on over to Instagram and connect @lindseypositiveperform. I'd love to connect with you on Instagram.