MM - Self-Compassion vs Self-Blame (Repost)

Season #29 October 28, 2024

Are you carrying the weight of self-blame? I launch this Mental Monday with a quick mindset check-in.

A key characteristic of athletes and high performers is HIGH STANDARDS. These are the same high standards that fuel late workouts, final sprints to the finish, and fierce competitiveness. But the dark side of high standards is often shame. Shame when you miss a shot, don't make the starting lineup, or let down the team.

But what if it didn't have to be this way? What if you could have high standards without shame?

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Welcome to the Mindset Coach Academy podcast. I'm Lindsey Wilson and I am a high-performance Mindset Coach, a mom, a former professional athlete and an entrepreneur. I help coaches and high performers optimize their mindset to improve their coaching, their performance in those of their athletes and their lives. Here you'll learn all about Mindset, how to live it, how to teach it and how to sell it. Hi all and welcome to Mindset Coach Academy. I'm Lindsey Wilson and today is Mental Monday where we talk about one single mindset shift that you can make today in about five minutes or so.

Alright, I want to talk about self-blame. So how are you doing today? How is your brain? How is your motivation? How is your time management? How is your productivity? And then how do you feel about yourself as the kind of person that is doing those things?

So whether or not those things are going well or not, how do you feel about yourself? So often what I see is people layering on self-blame. Like they feel there is something wrong with them because they didn't get enough done, for example, or they procrastinated or they didn't manage their time or they weren't in a creative space or they didn't get their exercise in. They layer on self-blame.

Now this is a tricky subject, right? Because as high performers, as athletes potentially, as someone who is driven, you want to have high standards and that is very, very good. But the flip side of that is often when things don't go exactly how we want them to go, we layer on self-blame. And what I want you to do in this moment is just try on self-compassion. What I often say to my clients is loving yourself hard means being hard on yourself, but also in the moments where you fail or you're not up to speed or you feel like you didn't do well enough, you also find the compassion to bring yourself up to the level you want to be at.

In other words, when we layer on self-blame, it's often a victim mentality. We go, I'm so terrible. Instead of I am better than this, today was not how I want it, did not go how I wanted it to go.

What can I do better? That is a totally different response than I'm a terrible person who never gets anything done. And in fact, loving yourself hard means choosing the more difficult response, which is high standards with self-compassion. This was a little bit of a radical concept for me as an athlete, because I thought if you were hard on yourself, if you layered on self-blame, it must mean you're a very disciplined, good person.

You must be really driven. And what I've learned is that it's actually the opposite. Self-blame is the easy way out, in other words. So choose self-compassion. Build yourself up to improve. Don't beat yourself down and then expect improvement.

Alright guys, that's our Mental Monday. I hope that was helpful. If you liked it, how about share this with somebody?

Share this with somebody that you think might benefit from this. It's only five minutes or so. I don't know.

It's short. And subscribe if you haven't already. Alright guys, thank you so much for being here. See you next Monday. Hey guys, before you go, I wanted to

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