Welcome to the Mindset Coach Academy Podcast. I'm Lindsey Wilson and I am a high-performance mindset coach, a mom, a former professional athlete and entrepreneur. I help coaches and high performers optimize their mindset to improve their coaching, their performance in those other athletes and their lives. Here you'll learn all about mindset, how to live it, how to teach it and how to sell it. Hi all and welcome back to Mental Monday.
It is the Mindset Coach Academy Podcast. You guys, you found yourself here. Here we go. My name is Lindsey. We're going to do this. Before we get into today's Mental Monday, remember this is where we take one tip, two or technique that you can implement in your life today or this week. I would love if you could rate and review the podcast wherever you listen to this.
Just go on, give it your stars, give it your rating. It would be so, so, so helpful. I'd so appreciate it. Okay. What I want to talk about today is giving advice. I'm thinking about this and I would say really unsolicited advice, but not in a bad way.
Let me back up. I just got back from LA and it's funny that this happened in LA because my trip to LA was with my dear friend, Brianne, who I've known for gosh, I'm going to age myself now. I don't know, probably 16 years, something like that. We traveled through Europe a lot. She was playing overseas. I was playing overseas.
We traveled through Europe a lot. We played a ton of three on three. If you knew me in the three on three days, that was like one of my teammates, one of my best friends, really.
We've stayed close this whole time. Anyway, Brianne and I traveled well together because we've traveled all through Europe and all kinds of places for playing three on three and we're just a really good match. We decided to go to LA and part of this trip to LA was mama, meaning me, needs to take more time for herself and Brianne and I need some time together. She lives in a different city. We went down to LA. We met at LAX and had a couple of days in LA.
That's the backstory. It was awesome. For me, a vacation, we did lots of fun stuff. We went to a Dodgers game, which is amazing. We ate really good food. We got in the ocean. We went to the pool.
We had a really great time. For me as a mom, I was joking today about the ability to only, the real vacation for me is only carrying my stuff. A real vacation for me is only asking when I'm hungry and when I have to go to the bathroom. The amount of brain space that takes up from taking care of children is a lot. When I'm on vacation, I only think about what I want and what I want to eat and what I want to sleep. All the things, that's the real vacation. Anyway, that's the backstory. We were walking down the promenade in Santa Monica, which is the pedestrian only, all the big stores.
There were these two younger women dressed all in red with a camera in front of the Apple store. I don't really walk up to people like that because they're going to just hashtag the shit out of me. I don't really know what that is. I don't want to be on live TV. They had this big sign and it said something like, I'll post it on Instagram. It said something like, mom's, give advice to other moms or something like that. I was like, okay, well, I know a little bit about being a mom. It's funny because I also, when people ask me for advice, I'm like, I have zero advice.
I don't know. It's really hard. Just love your kids. Anyway, I sat down and I started really thinking about it.
And I thought, you know what? My one advice, and I'll paraphrase it, you have to write it down and put it in the little whatever container. But my paraphrased advice was this, something like this. This would be an advice to a new mom. And the advice was, as soon as possible, meaning as soon as possible after having a baby, work to find yourself. Make time for yourself and get back to the things that make you you.
Get back to the things that make you feel like yourself. And so that was really my advice, right? And it was funny because that's exactly what I was doing with this trip, right? Is I was like, I want to hang out with Brienne. I want to walk the streets. I want to eat sushi. Like, that's what that trip was for me.
And I didn't really know that when I had one baby or two babies. It took me a long time to like, I would get back to working out. So I would do it a little bit, but like, I just needed to do it more. Anyway, my point with all this is whether you're a mom or a dad or not is that a lot of times the advice we give is the advice we need.
Okay, let me say that again. A lot of times the advice we give is the advice we need, or at least the advice that we need to continue to remind ourselves. So for me, I was like, just solidifying that idea of like, I need to make time for myself. I need to remind myself what I like to do. I need to get back to me sometimes, not all the time, but as much as possible.
And so I was thinking about this in regards to just kind of racking our brain for advice. Like wherever you have been, right? You have been a parent. You have been a coach. You have been a teacher.
You have been an athlete. You have been something in your past and you may still be that, but what's the one thing you would say to someone else in that situation? What is one thing you wish you had known? What is one piece of advice you would have given your younger self? And again, you don't have to even have to say it to anybody. I would just putting it into a box, but I did find myself like doubling down on that advice for myself now. Again, the advice you give is often the advice you need.
So racking your brain for that information. What would you tell yourself if you had to do it again? Can be actually helpful, even if you're. Maybe beyond it or there's always some application to your life right now.
So again, that's my little mental Monday is think about where you've been. What advice would you give somebody in that situation? What would advice would you give yourself if you have to do it again?
Have everyone a word it and then think about how that advice may be something that you need right now, maybe in a different way, or maybe you just need a gentle reminder of it. What have you? My guess is that it can still be incredibly valuable for you now. If only because it reminds you that you have grown and you have learned and you do know better. So that's my mental Monday. If you want to come on over Instagram and let me know what your advice would be for your younger self.
I would love to hear and maybe I can take the advice also. All right, guys, we'll see you next week for mental Monday. Bye for now.
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