Hi everybody and welcome back to the Mindset Coach Academy podcast. Today, I have just a little insight into these five principles that we teach in the Insider program. So I joined a mastermind this last year with Selena Sue and she's great and the mastermind was awesome and they had these five principles and I definitely stole some of them but I also came up with some of them and I really liked anchoring the group to five principles because while our insider has a purpose, our insider program is to get and retain clients. I think the culture of having five principles is really important because they're just things that you can go back to and tie in the community component and the group purpose and give people an idea of the culture. These five principles, I'm going to share them with you today because I really like them and I encourage everybody in the Insider program to focus on two or three of them so I'll give you that prompt also.
But again, this isn't really about the Insider program. This is about, and that's our mastermind after people get certified with us, this is about principles and I believe that they are principles for anything that you are doing in life. In particular, when you have bigger goals and maybe there's a lot going on, it can be really anchoring to go for and just keep reminding yourself of these principles and some of these may not resonate with you at all and that's okay but if they don't, maybe there's something that's similar or maybe it makes you think of a principle that you have that maybe you didn't even know you had.
So anyway, that's what I wanted, that was sort of like my intention. I like to sometimes give you guys a little update into my life. You guys tell me that you really like that. One of our most popular episodes was, I don't know what I called it, but it was like five things that I'm into and so I'm going to do another more personal episode coming up. I always, probably, it's hilarious because I hear other people doing this like podcasts that I like that I listen to and I always really like them and then when I do it, I'm like, does anybody really care?
But people tell me that they do. So here I am and again, I'm going to do another podcast that's like more life but I'll just give you a little update right now. Things are good. Things are really good. We just finished launching our Mindset Coach Academy certification and had our biggest launch ever, I think, or close to it.
We don't have exact numbers yet. We opened up our new, I should say, our only retreat we've ever done. We decided to finally do a retreat. I've been wanting to do it forever. It's really just kind of been something that's on my heart really to get everybody and create community in person. So we're doing that in November in, right outside Seattle, a beautiful retreat center.
So I went over there, took the ferry over with my girls and got to see it. It's like a LEED certified. I mean, it's just, it's exactly what you would imagine like Pacific Northwest, like big timber buildings with trees everywhere and Native American history. And it's like, it's like a really sacred place. And they're all about diversity and inclusion and like just the vibe.
Let's put it that way. I know I really use that word, the vibe. The vibe there was so cool and like really good, healthy, delicious food for every meal.
We're going to do a fire pit. And I kind of knew, I mean, that's why I chose that place. But I was like, I should probably just go see it because it's, you know, an hour away. And it was exactly what I wanted. And it was really cool to have my girls there because they were like running through the trails and they got to see mommy run in her business.
And so that was all good. And so anyway, we launched that and opened that up to, we haven't actually opened it up to everybody to our, I should say to our alumni yet, but we opened it up to our insiders. And so we have a few spots left on that. So that was really cool. And then we finished up our, let's say, I guess it was our fall MCA cohort. So it was like the end of 2023, the beginning of 2024, we just finished that and graduated that class.
And they moved on to the insider program. And, you know, the MCA classes, like, they're just so inspiring. Because I see the personal growth that people are having. And, you know, we also have breakout groups. So people get really close in the breakout groups, frankly, in a way that I'm not necessarily involved in.
But they bring that energy back to the main class, our main training group. And it makes me just so proud of the community we've created. And I mean, we like it's, it's my company, it's my team. But then we have our certified coaches or graduates that come back and they run these breakout groups and they lean in and they, you know, I mean, teams and communities mean nothing without leaders and buy-in and people excited and people helping each other. And I guess what makes me the most excited about all that is because this is exact, I created exactly what I needed. Like, I was so isolated and siloed as a mindset coach for years.
And, and there really wasn't or I couldn't find like a real community. And so it makes me happy. I benefit from it like a ton. But it also makes me really happy because I know that the people involved in our group are just going to be so much more successful because of that support. Like, there's really nothing like it. It just buoys you up. It gives you an energy and a momentum that you really can't go get anywhere else.
You can't create for yourself. And I know they're just going to get better results. Like, I know that that is going to benefit them in ways that you can't really measure. And so anyway, I'm telling you all that because I'm tired.
We did all that in like, I don't know, a couple weeks. And so I'm tired in a good way though. Like, I'm tired in a, that was awesome. We have a great class. It graduated. We have a great class incoming class. And, and frankly, my team is getting so much more efficient in everything that we do. And I should say, I'm getting more efficient in everything that we do.
So it's been really fun. Like we pushed, we kind of pushed the engine, which is what I encourage my students to do. Like you have to push the engine until it breaks a little bit. And there was definitely things that fell through the crack in our launches. And, you know, we always debrief afterwards. And like, oh, we need to add that. And, and you can't do it all at once, you know, we did a three day summit this time and had like over 500 people register for a three day summit. And that was an idea that we came up with like a month ago. And I'm sure my team was like, Lindsey, what in the actual f are we going to do? And I was like, I'm not exactly sure what I'm teaching for the three day summit. But here we go.
Buckle up. And so it was really fun to also see that we are capable of doing that. It was a little bit of a stretch, but our foundation was really good that we could push ourselves to another level. And so anyway, I'm kind of basking in that and just really proud of myself and my team because it all builds on itself, you know, even like the flops, even the times when I look back like that was not a good launch or, you know, we dropped the ball on that or this needs to be better.
That was really sloppy, like all that stuff, you shore it up. And then, and then you're better the next time. And, and so to see that progress is really fun and really rewarding. And, and I also know that when I get to those next levels, everything else, like in our business with our students up levels to because then I have more things to teach them, you know, and so that feels really good too. Personally, my girls are all doing great. And I was playing, I coached basketball this winter with my eight year old.
So that was super fun. And a lot of them was their first time playing basketball. So I would be like coaching and be like, Oh, I have to teach them how to jump stop, you know, like, or, Oh, they don't, I got to teach them how to pivot. And it's really funny to get back to like, basic, basic stuff where I'm talking about guys, where's the baseline? Remember the line that's the baseline, you know, and like, okay, here's the key. And it's, it's funny.
It's like, it's really back to basics. So that's been fun. That's what's going on in my life. So anyway, just wanted to give you a little update. Let's move into what I want to talk about these five principles. Okay. So again, this is what we implemented in the insider program last year.
And I'm going to go through each principle. If you like it, use it. If you don't, maybe it sort of conjures up something sort of adjacent for you or another wording that sort of works for you. Okay, principle number one. And again, this is for our group. This is for our mastermind group of mindset coaches. Principle one is engage and get what you came for.
Okay. So what this means for our group is engage with the community, get what you came for, be the person that leans into the group, and be responsible and accountable to yourself to get what you want and what you need. And I think this is just a really good mentality for doing almost anything.
And you don't have to be some extroverted, like raw, raw cheerleader. That's not what I mean. I mean going into a situation and taking accountability for getting what you came for, getting what you paid for. I think sometimes we commit to things and then we wait for somebody else to deliver something to us. And sure, when people are paying for our products and our services and our groups, we should be delivering at a high level. I don't mean that that takes the onus off us, but I also know that when you come into a group, if you come in and you are leaning in, you are much more likely to get what you need. Instead of standing there with your hands crossed and wondering why things aren't catered to you or people aren't reading your mind.
Right? And so I love that push because it makes people, you can ask questions, whether publicly or privately, you can ask questions, you can raise your hand when things aren't clear, you can ask for what you need. Like you have permission to do that, at least in my groups, you always have permission to do that. And then it's on you to engage and get what you came for. I love that mentality really in anything that you're going to do in your life, whether that's a group thing or anything that you're committing to, just engage and get what you came for. Okay, that's principle one. Again, maybe that resonates with you, maybe it doesn't take it or leave it, doesn't matter.
Okay. Principle number two is committing to win. I love this, and I bet a lot of you do too. We want to win in life. Now, a couple of things go into that. We need to decide what winning actually is. And I think without a scoreboard, the life scoreboard, it can be really easy to not have a lot of clarity on what winning actually is and figuring out what that looks like specifically, because it's not as simple as a scoreboard anymore. For our coaches, oftentimes, and this is why one of the reasons that I do love sales and I love business is often it is metrics driven. You can say, oh, if I'm making this much per month, that's a win. But it could also be less tangible things.
So committing to win is also being clear about what winning is. What does that actually look like for you? And this is not so easy to know. Oftentimes, we have these ambiguous things like, well, I'm going to feel a certain way or I'm going to, I don't know, feel like I'm balancing it all.
What the hell does that mean? I mean, that's all perception, that's all the story we're going to take in our head. And it's also fleeting. So there's going to be days when you're like, okay, I'm winning. I'm winning at life.
Boo, boo, boo. And there's going to be days when you're not. And so getting just some more clarity around winning and then really holding yourself to it. And again, this can be hard if we don't know what winning is, but holding, committing to winning, committing to it doesn't mean you're going to.
Right? I think about this a lot in sports, right? Like, my coach had this great saying that he said all the time, which was play so hard to win that it hurts so bad to lose. Play so hard to win that it hurts so bad to lose. Like that is like, that's what we want.
We want to feel pain if we don't reach our goal. Otherwise, we're in like mediocrity. We're mediocre land. We're not winning. We're not losing. We're just there.
We're just existing. So principle two is committing to win, figuring out what winning means to you and committing to doing it. And yes, committing to doing it means that if it doesn't happen, it probably will hurt. But that hurt can also get you to another level of reevaluating. So again, if I'm not reaching my sales goal, but I'm committed, I'm fully committed to hitting that goal, well, something's going on that I need to fix. But if I'm not committed to it, I'm like, I didn't really care that much anyway.
Have you ever heard anybody say that? It doesn't matter. It's just money.
But no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I'm committed to winning. So what do I have to do to win? And then those are painful questions. So committing to doing it is something that you have to be principled about and think about ahead of time, because in the moment, it's not going to feel like a really fun thing to do. So engage, get what you came for, and committing to win. Principle three is think like an athlete and compete. I love thinking like an athlete.
And I bet if you're listening to this podcast, you do too. But I think it's easy to mute that part of ourself and not get, let's say, competitive or aggressive or, you know, like conjure up that feeling inside of you that's like, fuck this. Like, no, I am doing this. I'm going to do my best. I am going for it.
And I'm going to compete. And that inner power and aggressiveness and competitive fire, I think gets dumbed down. And I think for those of us that really do best with that fire in us, it behooves us to connect with that part of ourselves. We feel better when we connect with that part of ourselves.
It's not always so celebrated out in the world. And there's also, I think, things that work against us. For me, it's like having little kids does not make me feel like a competitor. You know what I mean? That's like a different part of my brain until it does. Like there's definitely moments as a mom where I'm like, oh, no, this is mommy competitive.
We're not fucking around attitude. And I really like connecting to that part of myself. And it doesn't happen all the time in my day to day life.
I think what I'm saying is I think it needs to be intentional. I think we have to find places in our life. And that could be actual competition that could be actually playing or doing something. But if it's not for us in our groups, it's a lot about entrepreneurship, right?
But it doesn't have to be like that. I just think the principle of thinking like an athlete and reminding yourself that you can think like an athlete and you can compete, even if just competing with yourself or your former self or your current self that wants to stay where you are. When you have that mentality, I think, and I'm me, I think that's more fun. But I also think that we often need to be intentional about it.
And so in this moment, if any of this is resonating with you, the way that I think about it is just like a little part inside of you that is just like kicking your own ass in a very positive way that's like looking around and like, excuse my language, is like, fuck this shit. No, no. That's what it sounds like in my mind.
I don't know if that's what it sounds like in your mind, but that's what it sounds like in my mind. So think like an athlete and compete. That's principle three. Principle four, and I love this one because I think it's applicable to everything, is bold action over busy action. Bold action over busy action. As an entrepreneur, this is simple and straightforward but not easy. It's like you're doing the hard things versus the easy things, the things that make you feel like you're working, working, working in front of your computer, and it's like it doesn't mean bullshit towards your business at all. It's not going to make you money. It's just work.
I call it work you work actually is what I call it. So that's, it's kind of straightforward in business. In life, I think it's maybe less straightforward, but I still think that it's there.
So an example would be bold action as a parent versus busy action. When we get caught up in the busy action, I should say for me, when I'm caught up in the busy action, I think everything needs to be done. Nothing's ever going to get done fully. There's all these things that I'm not doing and that sucks, but I just got to keep trying to do them, right? Versus doing maybe not as much, but things that actually really matter.
So let me give you like a more clear example. So the busy action would be like, okay, I got to get the kids hairbrushed. I got to get them new shoes. I got to make the dentist appointment. I got to do the birthday party invitation.
I got to get the birthday gift for this person. I got to make sure their shoes are organized. I got to make sure their shirts are organized. I got to put the note in the lunch.
I got to do a box for leap year. I got to do like one million things that I've seen on, oh, and all the activities that I've ever been on Instagram, apparently is doing with homeschooling. That's the busy mom vibe. The bold action are like things that actually fricking matter, right? Like, and I don't know what it is. It's like, for me, I don't do all the like everything with my kids. I do write them letters that I put in their baby book on their birthday. Have I missed some?
Absolutely. But like, that's the kind of thing like, I don't buy them all the kind of stuff they want. I don't do all the notes. I don't make little their sandwiches and their lunchbox in the shape of a monster. I don't do all that. I write them letters that I imagine them reading. Like I'm about to like tear up.
I imagine them reading at 25, 35 years old. That they know I didn't do all the crafts. I didn't do all the busy stuff.
I didn't homeschool them, but I wrote them letters. Okay. So maybe that gives you like a little example. Like busy too much, everything all at once, things that don't probably actually matter, and it's impossible to do anyway versus something bold. That's probably actually hard, but maybe it's like one thing or two things. And maybe, and you know, another bold action would be like, it's just spending time with them.
Like I'm not going to do all the crafts, but I'm going to spend five minutes reading a book to each one of them individually. Whatever this looks like for you. Bold action over busy action.
Okay. This is life. That is like a good life principle in my opinion.
Okay. Bold action over busy action. That's principle number four.
Number five is something that I've struggled with and struggled with, and I'm determined to not struggle with it anymore. And it's celebrate wins. Celebrate wins. The way that has been helpful for me to think about it is not like celebrating wins and like this feel good kind of thing.
Like we all should be doing it. And it's like, I don't know, it's going to make you feel good. For me, the celebrating wins is about the mindset shift. So to me, like the way that I'm going to start thinking about it, and we just finished the MCA, so I'm going to celebrate next week with something special. And, but for me, generally in the past, I've said I was going to celebrate. And then, and celebrating doesn't mean spending a bunch of money.
It just means making, marking it. Okay. So I've said I was going to do it. And then I either didn't or I moved so quickly to the next thing that I just didn't, I didn't make it intentional.
You know, maybe I did the thing, but I didn't make it intentional. And so for me now, the, the reason, I have to know the reason for it. And again, it's not just to feel good. The reason for it is it gives my brain the reward that keeps my momentum moving forward and helps me mark getting to another level.
Okay. So there's actually like a purpose behind the celebrating wins. It's not just a good feeling, which cool, like it should be a good feeling. I wish that that motivated me more. But I like to think of it as like, oh, it's actually going to help me in the future.
Right. Like if I celebrate now, it's really important because it's giving my brain the message that I can do hard things, that there's a reward at the end, that I get this momentum, that I'm now marking a new level and let's that sort of solidify in me. Like, okay, here I am. So that's how I think about celebrating wins.
And it just helps me for me to just think of it as sort of like, why? Are we celebrating? Which sounds kind of stupid and it sounds like I shouldn't need that, but I just noticed for myself, it helps me get excited about celebrating more. And in our group, we have a day where we have hashtag celebrate and we want to even celebrate the small things. Like it's really important to think about, oh, I got my first client or I got on a sales call with five different people this week. Like those are wins and celebrating them again gives your brain that momentum that's like, okay, I'm getting better. I'm moving forward. Because otherwise it's just like, it's a never ending.
Like the finish line just keeps moving, right? Okay. So those are the principles that we use again in our insider mastermind, which is our group for our certified coaches after they graduate. But I really think these are great principles to take into your everyday life. So I'll review them here in a second.
And again, if there's not one, two or three that like jump out to your like, okay, I'm going to commit to that principle, you know, in the next month or so. You can shift them a little bit. You can change the wording. But do as I recap them here, do think about like two or three that you think you could implement into your life. And also what would that look like? Like what would it look like to really compete in your life? What would it really look like to do bold action over busy action? Like what would that look like? How would you shift and just like taking some time today and be like, okay, these I'm going to commit these to this is what that's going to look like in the next month or two.
And I would also, unless you're driving, of course, I would write them down, write them down. You know, again, I'm going to commit to win and put that down. I'm going to celebrate my wins. I'm going to put that down on a post-it note or whatever and remind yourself.
So they have a visual reminder. Okay. So here's the here's the recap.
All right. So five principles, engaging and get what you came for. Again, I think that creates accountability and ownership in your own experience. And you end up just getting so much more when you put the onus on yourself to go get it. And that mentality of getting what you came for in every situation is just, it's a really powerful one. You will get so much more out of anything that you do if you have that mentality. Number two is committing to winning. Knowing what winning is and fully committing to it is so, so powerful.
Not giving yourself an out, but actually saying, no, no, no, I committed to doing this. Number three is thinking like an athlete and competing. Again, I just love the idea of like tapping into that part of you that maybe like it, maybe not even a little latent, maybe it's like gone to sleep for a little while and like tapping. And if you're listening to this and you know that feeling that I'm talking about, like you can connect with it, let this be your sign that there's a little part of you that's like, oh yes, I am a competitor. I want to think like an athlete. And here's the cool thing you can start today. You can start right now. If you're like that, you're like that forever.
I really believe that you're like that forever. It's just about tapping into it and being intentional. Number four is bold action over busy action. You guys, there's so much information coming at us at all moments of all days. And we constantly think that we have to do all of it.
Most of it is not going to mean shit for shit. Most of it really is the busy work minutia of life. Choose bold things over busy things. You'll get more done.
You'll feel better about it and you'll get more results in any aspect of your life. Number five, and I'm going to be working on this with you, is celebrating wins. And again, it's not just about a feel good feeling.
It's about giving your brain the message you got to another level, getting that momentum and that reward for doing it and taking that moment to be like, oh, hell, yes, I did it. Okay. So those are our five principles that we use in the Insider Mastermind.
Take them, leave them, use them, change them. I hope that they help you. I hope this was a helpful episode. And if it was, hey, you know what you could do? You know what you could do? Come on over to Instagram.
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