Lindsey 00:12
Welcome to the Mindset Coach Academy Podcast. I'm Lindsey Wilson. And I am a high performance mindset coach, a mom, a former professional athlete and an entrepreneur, I help coaches and high performers optimize their mindset to improve their coaching, their performance, and those other athletes and their lives. Here, you'll learn all about mindset, how to live it, how to teach it, and how to sell it.
Lindsey 00:35
Hi, y'all, and welcome to the Mindset Coach Academy podcast. My name is Lindsey Wilson, thank you for being here. Thank you for being part of our community and listening to our podcasts, maybe you're in our Facebook group, or maybe you're in one of our programs. I hope that you are and if you aren't, I may have something for you.
Lindsey 00:35
See, I created all of this out of either what I needed in the past, or what I need now. I looked around and I thought, what do people like me need? That's how I first started working with athletic departments and going into collegiate teams and teaching what I had been taught about mindset coaching.
Lindsey 01:13
That's how I create this podcast. In fact, my husband asked me, What kind of podcast do you like listening to? Or what do you think is needed for you? And this monthly coaching program is just that because so many of us are mindset coaches, or we are coaches that are coaching mindset, or we are humans that are trying to improve mindset in other people and in ourselves. Where do we go to work on that? Where do we find community and team and accountability and coaching for ourselves? There's tons of stuff out there for coaching for holistic life coaching.
Lindsey 01:46
But where's it for athletes, where's it for athlete-minded people, people like you and I that are driven that want to be around other athlete-minded people? That's what we're creating. And I am so fired up about it. We've been doing it for probably four months with our insider group and with some of my existing coaching clients, and for the first time we're opening up to the public, so I'm excited about that. If it is out by the time you hear this, the link will be in the show notes. So be sure to check that out. I'm excited about this mindset coaching program. So check it out.
Lindsey 02:20
Alright, guys, I want to talk about making sure we are praising progress. And I was thinking about this because my seven-year-old daughter is playing soccer. And it's like something switched in her brain where she sort of seems to get it more as far as being able to just play before I think she was trying to figure out the rules of the game and paint into the coach and the other players.
Lindsey 02:52
And anyway, so this last weekend, it's like it sort of clicked all of a sudden, and she scored two goals, which was great, very exciting. Her first goal was really cute. She almost looks surprised. And she ran over to me and give me a huge hug. It's like probably a moment I'll never forget, almost like a football player, running up into the stands after a touchdown. And I'm like, you gotta go back. And so she did. And after the game, I said, I am so proud of you.
Lindsey 03:25
Why is Mommy proud of you? And of course, I was so proud because she answered. And she said Because I played hard. And I said, Am I proud of you because of the goals? And she said no because I played hard. Now, this is challenging as a parent or as any kind of leader because, of course, I love seeing her score a goal. That's cool.
Lindsey 03:45
But I'm also thinking long-term, and I'm trying to wire her. And I learned a lot of this from Dr. Becky Kennedy, who does a good inside a podcast, she talks a lot about parenting. But this is very applicable to sports and those of us that are leading or coaching or influencing other people in that praising the progress is important.
Lindsey 04:06
Because back to my seven-year-old, there are times when she's going to score goals and there are times when she is not going to. We know that right? There's gonna be times when she misses, there's gonna be times when she screws up, that is a part of sports, that's a part of life. And I want her to know that progress is much more important than the result. And again, this is hard, because I am sure that my face showed excitement when she scored that goal. So I have to make sure to overdo it with wiring the idea that it progresses over results.
Lindsey 04:44
And I say this to my girls all the time. And our family. We care about playing hard and having fun. Those are our like family mantras going into sports. Play hard, and have fun. It's not just about having fun and high-fiving your friends, even when they're four and five and six was seven years old. It is that too but it is also played hard. That's really, really important. I digress.
Lindsey 05:07
So they're getting that message regularly from us. But again, I want them to be really, really clear that the thing that we are proud of, and the thing that they should be the proudest of in themselves, is playing hard, because sometimes that ball is gonna go to the goal, and sometimes it's not.
Lindsey 05:25
Now, why does this matter for life? Well, you can probably decide that for yourself. But as my daughters get older, there are going to be situations where they fail, or where they're successful doesn't matter. In those moments, I want them not to go outside themselves and say, what does everybody else think? Are they proud of that result, or not proud or disappointed in that result? Or do I know in my heart, in my bones, in my gut, that I gave my very, very best?
Lindsey 06:07
Now, this does a couple of things. One, I think this is really just good for me, for all of us to remember that in ourselves. When we practice this with the people that we love, like our children, or people that we teach or mentor or influence, we have then reflected on ourselves that we understand in our life, progress is what we want to praise.
Lindsey 06:34
But also, it's reminding my daughter that she has complete control to be proud of herself. In all moments, win or lose, make the goal miss the goal, that playing hard is the most important thing, then that allows her to not be so attached to the result, which allows her to play hard, right? So it's like this sort of like a catch-22. Like, if you are so excited about the results, then you start clinging to the results. And then you start hesitating.
Lindsey 07:08
Whereas if the result comes and goes and it's great if it happens, but if it doesn't, you know, that's disappointing, but really, we're, we're praising the progress, that she has that freedom, that relentless pursuit of playing hard, and having fun playing hard of course. So I wanted to do a podcast on this because I think, you know, those of us that have, I don't know, read all the books, you know, Carol Dweck, right? Like, we know that praising progress is important. But I think we have to overdo it.
Lindsey 07:46
Because it is almost impossible for someone who cares about another person to not be excited when they get the result they want, right? But we have to make sure we are instilling that wiring for the long term. Because again, my daughter scores that goal, that's great. But I want her throughout her life to know that it's really about the things that she can control, that she has the freedom to play hard, that is the most important thing. So she can be proud of herself when that happens.
Lindsey 08:21
So again, a little check-in to remind yourself to praise the progress and other people. And also allow that, to come back to yourself. And in your life. Where are you praising the progress, and not just the result? That doesn't mean we don't care about results, we need to be able to hold both things, right? If I don't care about my business results, well, that's not very much fun. And that's kind of another way of playing small, right? It's okay to care about the results, but not so much that you only care about the results.
Lindsey 08:58
So praising the progress and others allows you to mirror that back to yourself and praise the progress in yourself. So you just wanted to share that. We're off to a soccer practice tonight. And I'm just going to continue to work on this and continue to praise the progress and I hope you'll join me. Alright, guys, that is your Mindset Coach Academy Podcast. Thank you so much for being here. And we will see. Bye for now.
Lindsey 09:27
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Lindsey 09:34
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Lindsey 09:55
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Lindsey 10:22
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