Lindsey 00:12
Welcome to the Mindset coach Academy Podcast. I'm Lindsey Wilson. And I am a high-performance mindset coach, a mom, a former professional athlete and an entrepreneur. I help coaches and high performers optimize their mindset to improve their coaching, their performance, and those other athletes and their lives. Here, you'll learn all about mindset, how to live it, how to teach it, and how to sell it.
Lindsey 00:37
Hey, all and welcome to Mindset Coach Academy podcast. It's mental Monday. Hi, guys, it's Lindsay. It's so funny because I'm recording this on, I don't know what day is, it's a Thursday, kids just got back in school. And I feel a little bit like I'm underwater, I'm very tired. I have a two-month-old, as many of you know, and I'm just coming back from maternity leave. Like I'm because I want my business, I'm working just a little bit here and there maybe an hour call. But I'm going to wrap up the podcast.
Lindsey 01:09
And so this month in our monthly mindset coaching program, which is a program we're gonna be announcing very soon, if we haven't already, by the time you listen to this, we are talking about Failure this month. And I wanted to talk about it real quick, many of you have heard my stories over and over again. So I'm not going to go so so so far into it. But I want to talk a little bit about the failures that I've experienced in my life, one in particular because I want you to start thinking about yours. And I know this sounds counterintuitive, like why start your Monday morning talking about the failures you've had in your life?
Lindsey 01:42
But it's important, not only for yourself, because part of our aversion to failure is that deep-seated belief that we're not going to be okay, that we're not going to recover, we're never going to recover from this failure. And the best evidence of the future is to look to the past. And if we can look to the past and say, You know what, I thought the world was going to end when that failure happened. And it did not, I'm here, I'm fine. I was stronger even because of it.
Lindsey 02:12
And so bringing up those ideas in your mind, thinking and talking about your failures, with the people around, you know, many of you are leaders, your coaches, your parents, your teachers, your mindset coaches, and talking about your failures is going to be one of the most powerful ways for you to connect with anybody in your life. I was just watching the Brené Brown special last night, just a couple of minutes before I went to bed. And he was talking about vulnerability. Again, I know you guys have probably heard this a million times. But that ability to talk about really our weaknesses and our failures is so so powerful for connection.
Lindsey 02:49
Okay. So for me, I talked about my failures in the WNBA, not making the WNBA getting drafted, getting cut, making the practice team getting cut, and going to a trial getting cut. But I also want to talk about not only what I put into it from, you know, the years of training, to get to that point which has been my lifelong dream. But one time in particular. And that was a year that I took an entire year off of playing overseas. So if you're not familiar with overseas, there's a wide range of levels. And there were times when I was playing at the highest level. And there were times when I was playing in the leagues in Europe, like mid-range, you know, so the competition was okay.
Lindsey 03:31
But one of the problems overseas is you don't have a lot of they don't have a lot of skill development, often, the practices aren't super strong. And so, you know, if you don't have a great coach over there, it's really hard to transition from playing overseas, you know, where people are like smoking at the beginning of practice, to WNBA today's and so I thought, Okay, I'm gonna spend an entire year and I'm going to get ready to get to training camp and make a team. This is going to be my year and I'm going to do it. And I'm going to forego an entire season, an entire season, salary, everything and stay home and Seattle, train with my coach get in the best shape of my life, get skills up, play against everybody, guys, college teams, like get just really tight with my skills.
Lindsey 04:17
And so I did that. And so an entire year I stayed home and train and I think I was about 26,27 Something like that. And anyway, long story short, I got one tryout with a team in Detroit spent $1,000 flying there at the last minute and they basically said they chose somebody else. They had this little open tryout for point guards, and they didn't use anybody from the camp. So I think I tried to get on another practice team, I think a practice with the storm for a little bit. Long story short, I did not make a team that year. I had spent an entire year training and I couldn't even get a tryout after that open gym-type situation.
Lindsey 04:56
So at that moment During the thick of it exactly what the words are to describe how disappointing that was. But I just remember, like, it felt like such a waste, it felt like a year of a salary, a year of time, a year of commitment of just training like crazy to get to that point, and not even really get a shot. It wasn't even that I didn't get, I didn't even get into a training camp. Like I got one afternoon to play against some other players. And that was it. So that was extremely disappointing. That was huge at that moment failure in my mind.
Lindsey 05:35
So often, when I'm thinking about failure, I think about that year, in particular, many, before that, and after that having to do with the WNBA. And in my sports career in general, but I'm okay. Like, and this is the thing that I also clicked to, is I went for it. I didn't hold anything back, I think I always would have wondered if it was because I was playing overseas, and I didn't have great coaching over there, or what have you. And I decided, this is my goal, this is my dream, I'm gonna go for it. And so I feel really strong and good about that. So when I'm talking about failure, I'm not just talking in sort of these nebulous ideas of failure, you know, like, I'm talking about these failures that I've had in my life.
Lindsey 06:18
And I really encourage you to think about your failures today. And also how you are okay, not only how you are okay, how you may be even better than you were before, how you may be proud of yourself for how you recovered, how you may be proud of yourself for going for it. And, again, that you know that Hindsight is 2020, of course, because at the moment, you probably didn't feel that way. But learning that again, because there is something in your life right now myself included, that we're avoiding because we're like, am I gonna be okay, if it doesn't work out? And the answer is yes. The answer is yes. It was yes. Before it was yesterday. It's gonna be Yes, tomorrow.
Lindsey 06:57
And so my challenge to you is to think about your failures. Again, I know it's counterintuitive, but think about one failure, in particular you can use. Also DM me or send me an Instagram message. Remind yourself that you're okay. Because you are and then share that with somebody else that also needs to be inspired by your ability to get over failure. Because a lot of times when the problem of being the problem of failing often is that we feel alone.
Lindsey 07:21
Okay, so that's your challenge today. Happy mental Monday. Again, we're gonna be announcing if we haven't already, our new monthly mindset coaching program, so look out for that. And, as always, keep working on your mindset. Alright, talk to you later. Bye for now.
Lindsey 07:38
Hey, if you love this episode, make sure to check out all of our free and paid resources over at positiveperformancetraining.com You want to take mindset training to the next level we got you.
Lindsey 07:48
But here are three more specific ways. If you want to take mindset training and live it more in your life. Definitely subscribe to this podcast. We send out bonus episodes, we have our mental Mondays, we have interviews and training episodes, definitely subscribe. If you want to teach it, meaning taking it to your athletes or your clients. I highly recommend the Psychology of Competition. Again, you can check that out at positiveperformancetraining.com It is a great course that will teach you and your athletes how to have pre, during, and post-competition routines to up your performance.
Lindsey 08:18
And if you want to learn how to have a mindset coaching business in order to sell mindset coaching, highly recommend signing up for our waitlist for our next certification cohort, which usually opens about once a year, but in the meantime, go to positiveperformancetraining.com.And check out our Ultimate Mindset Coaching Toolkit which will show you exactly how to get started with your first mindset coaching clients. Again, go to positiveperformancetraining.com for all of our free and paid resources.
